Are you having trouble talking to your partner? Do you feel that your partner gets unresponsive to your feelings? According to a recent research, just merely talking about your feelings is not the only or even necessarily the best way for couples to maintain healthy, happy and successful relationships. There is a lot more to it.

‘Communication is the key’…This statement has been said to pretty much everyone once. So if communication is the key, where do we find this key? All of us who have had relationships, struggled with communication at some point in life. But these relationships also teach us how we can be better communicators and thus only express ourselves effectively and get our needs met as well.


You can improve your relationship today by putting into practice some of the basic tips-

Talk it out in person- It is very important to interact with your partner about your problems  face to face and not over a text chat or a phone conversation as it is a better way of clearing misunderstandings and bridge the gap.

Listen carefully- Knowing that you are being heard is one of the experiences most likely to cement a feeling of connection to another.

Share your experiences- Try sharing your daily experiences with each other and discuss all the feelings associated with it.

Be open and honest- Be open to your partner about your feelings. Tell him/her how you feel and what you did not like about them or the particular situation.

Pay attention to the nonverbal- When we communicate, we can say a lot without speaking. If our feelings don’t fit with our words, it is often the non-verbal communication like body language, tone of the voice, maintaining eye contact that gets noticed and believed.

Stay focused in here and now- You should try to keep the discussion focused to the topic at hand and not pick a topic from the past and have an argument. This just tends to escalate arguments.

Sandwich method- This should be your best friend. In this method, when you tell your significant other something that might be difficult to hear, you sandwich it between positive statements, for example :“I really like you and am very happy but sometimes it gets very difficult and taxing working out things with you. I would love it if you could spend some quality time with me. It’s so nice when we get to spend time together”


Try it out and you might be able to connect or reconnect with people you never thought you would.Communication bridges gap but it also takes willingness, commitment and dedication to do so, just as all good things in life do.


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